What reduces tearing
Some things genuinely work, and one of them you can do yourself.
Perineal massage during pregnancy, from about 35 weeks. Across 4 trials and 2,497 women it reduced trauma requiring stitches (relative risk 0.91, about 15 women needing to do it for one to benefit) and reduced episiotomy (relative risk 0.84, about 21 women per benefit). The benefit was in women without a previous vaginal birth. It did not reduce severe tears.
Warm compresses during the birth. Across 4 trials and 1,799 women, fewer third and fourth-degree tears (relative risk 0.46).
Perineal massage during the second stage. Across 5 trials and 2,477 women, fewer third and fourth-degree tears (relative risk 0.49), and more women with an intact perineum.
Hands-on versus hands-off. No clear difference in intact perineum or severe tears, but more episiotomies in the hands-on group.