"But you have a healthy baby"
The sentence women report most often, and why it lands badly.
Women who raise a problem after a birth, whether pain, a frightening moment, an injury, or a sense that something was done to them rather than with them, are very often answered with a version of the same sentence: at least the baby is healthy.
It may be true. It is not a response to what was asked. Its effect is to tell a woman her outcome was good, which she already knows, in place of telling her that what happened to her was real.
There is a structural reason it is so reflexive. Attention shifts decisively to the newborn at the moment of birth, and the mortality data show what that costs: more than half of pregnancy-related deaths occur after the delivery admission, and 84.2% were judged preventable.
The phrase itself has not been studied as a named phenomenon, and this tool will not pretend otherwise. What is documented, repeatedly and in women's own words, is the experience underneath it.